Submitted by:: Sandi - 7-Sep-2017
In my work, I frequently speak with people who are disenchanted with their lives.
“I feel so frustrated … I’ve been doing the same thing at work for years and I just can’t seem to get ahead.”
“I feel lost. I know I am capable of doing more but have no idea how to achieve what I really want to do.”
“Maybe I’m just not meant to do anything else. I mean, who am I to want more?”
I find this very sad.... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 14-Jul-2017
Work/Life Balance doesn't exist - and while we continue to strive to achieve it, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment.
The phrase itself suggests a couple things that are inherent in the problem:... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 22-Jun-2017
Frankly, no. It's not possible - and we are causing ourselves untold frustration and disappointment while we keep trying to achieve it!
Why do I say this?
Well, think for a minute about the phrase itself -... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 13-Apr-2017
(WARNING: Your life as you know it is about to change)
“How can I handle difficult people?”
Answer – you can’t.
“Wait – what? You mean I’m stuck with them in my life?”
Answer – it all depends on how you look at it.... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 28-Mar-2017
I recently attended a three-day women’s festival that I attended for the first time in 2016. It’s never the same the second, third or umpteenth time around is it? First of all, there’s that ‘first time newness’ that we can only get once. “Wow! Look at that!” “Goodness, that’s amazing!” And so on … because we are seeing things through fresh, first-time eyes.
In our subsequent visits, while we look for that same magic, but logically know it will be different than our beloved ‘first-time’. We then start to notice what’s not there that we liked the previous year(s), and lament “But I really liked that!”
So this year, I decided to focus instead on what was new, different and intriguing. And that’s how I came across The Release Tree.... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 15-Mar-2017
We’ve all heard these definitions …
Courage is not the absence of fear, but the conquering of it. (I’ve seen this attributed to Dan Millman)
Courage is resistance to fear. (Thanks Mark Twain)
Courage is mastery of fear. (Mark Twain again)
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. (Kelly Clarkson made this line famous in her pop song)
In other words, grit your teeth and move on regardless. Tough it out. Toughen up.
A lot of people who know me say I’m one of the most tenacious, determined, “courageous” people they know. And I’ve always kind of liked this. I’m proud that I ‘hang in there’, dig deep and find my way through challenges.
My father (bless you, dad) had a saying that went something like this: “The real measure of a person’s character is how they handle adversity.” And I liked this too – for most of my life.
Whenever I was going through a tough time, I’d remember my dad’s words and think ‘keep going, Sandi – you’re developing character. People will admire you for the fact that you’ve made it through all this crap.’ And so I did keep going (though I’m not sure this really earned me brownie points in the admiration-from-other-people stakes).... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 13-Oct-2016
That’s right – how long has it been since you celebrated?
I don’t mean go-out-on-the-town-and-spend-a-fortune celebration …
I mean even a simple pause in your day when you gave yourself a pat on the back.... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 14-Jan-2015
The sense of belonging is one of our fundamental human needs. The American psychologist, Abraham Maslow, is widely known for creating his model of Hierarchy of Needs in which the 3rd level of the hierarchy is Belongingness & Love Needs (family, friends, relationships, affection and work groups).
Maslow's premise is that innate human needs must be fulfilled in order of the hierarchy (needs at the 3rd level can't be met until needs in the 2nd level have been met, and level 2 needs can't be met unless those at level 1 have been fulfilled).
That's good news for most leaders in our business world.... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 3-Dec-2014
We often think of 'success' as reaching the goal, or completing the task.
Not true!... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 2-Dec-2014
I have a bad habit.
Being a visual processor, I fall into the bad habit of leaving stuff arund my office so I can see it ... so I don't forget it.
Bad move!... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 10-Oct-2014
Thousands of organisations spend countless dollars on training and developing their employees every year. Yet they fail to see any tangible result that adds value to the business. What are they doing wrong – and how can it be fixed?... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 15-Jan-2014
Irrespective of what your stance is on how we should deal with Australia's asylum seekers, this post holds some important truths for all our leaders.... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 17-Dec-2013
Especially at this time of year, we can be pulled in 1001 different directions with so many demands on our time and attention. So here are 5 very specific techniques to help you say 'no' when you want - or need! - to!... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 31-Oct-2013
I heard it again this week.
I've heard it many times before.
Unfortunately I'll probably hear it again in the future - more than a couple of times.
"Sandi ... my staff member's performance has been terrible for months now ... but I just don't know how to handle it. What can I do?"
Hmmm ... where shall I start?... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 14-Oct-2013
Seems obvious, doesn't it?
Yet, it's surprising to me how many people forget this.When focussed on 'who's to blame', people involved are looking for the singular person who caused it all.
Wrong!... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 18-Sep-2013
Our popular Breakfast Seminar on Leading & Transforming Difficult Teams is running again in Melbourne on 26th Sept (that's next week!).... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 12-Sep-2013
For the Business section of The Age, I was interviewed to provide expert comment on the impact of office gossip - and how to put an end to it.... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 8-Aug-2013
A strange article on Smart Company's site ... and I'm not sure I agree with all of it. (Or much of it, come to think about it ...)
... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 8-Aug-2013
I saw this in Smart Company's materials ...... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 22-Jul-2013
I've just received my latest Post Program Executive Report for a client I worked with last week. I used to do these myself - but then I finally saw the light ...... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 4-Jul-2013
OK ... so I'm thinking about indepedence today because I was born in the USA and spent the early years of my life there. And today is America's Independence Day - a national holiday where our break from England in 1776 is commemorated and celebrated.
But it's a subject worthy of pondering ...
How independent are you?... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 1-Jul-2013
The Fair Work Amendment Bill 2013, which provides a new bullying jurisdiction for the Fair Work Commission (FWC), passed the Senate on 27 June.
The bullying regime, which commences on 1 January 2014, allows bullied workers to apply to the FWC for help to resolve the matter.... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 27-Jun-2013
Safe Work Australia commissioned a study on the relationship bewteen workplace bullying and the incidence of depression.
Members of the Centre for Research on Ageing, Health and Wellbeing at the Australian National University found increased prevalence of person-related and work-related bullying where respondents reported negative work characteristics such as high job demands and low job control - as well as what they call 'poor organisational culture'.
The findings are fascinating and are a must-read for all Leaders and HR Professionals.
... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 13-Jun-2013
“Leadership is not about titles and positions, there are people with no titles who lead every day. … Leadership is about making a positive difference and you cannot do that without empathy.” Carly Fiorina, former CEO of HP.
Hear, hear, Carly!
So, how can you be a leader without a title?
Here are 10 ways you can get started - today!... read more
Submitted by:: Sandi - 29-May-2013
Obvious, right? Yet there’s lots of ways to ignore people. Be constantly in meetings and/or out of the office. Say your ‘door is always open’, but it’s usually closed. Be distracted by your email or phone while they’re talking with you. Avoid eye contact as you walk through the office. Tell them you’ll get back to them – and then don’t.
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